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10. 在别人的背后称赞别人。这最终将惠及你自己。

Compliment people behind their back. It’ll come back to you.

11.如果你遇到一个混蛋，忽略他。如果你每天到处遇到混蛋，那么你需要更深入地审视自身。

If you meet a jerk, overlook them. If you meet jerks everywhere everyday, look deeper into yourself.

12.世上没有秘密。你最好是直接把不受欢迎的消息告诉别人。纸包不住火，秘密不可避免地会被传递。同时，所有掌握秘密的人，都会被秘密腐蚀。你要拒绝接收秘密。

No secrets. You are much better off delivering unwelcomed news to someone yourself directly. A secret is rarely unknown, which means inevitably someone else will share it. Meanwhile the secret corrodes all who hold it. Resist accepting secrets.

13. 让别人知道你记得他们的名字，这样他们就绝不会忘记你的名字。记住名字的诀窍是第一次听到时就在心里重复几遍。

Let someone know you remembered their name, and they won’t ever forget yours. To help remember their name, repeat it on first hearing.

14. 如果你相信每个人最好的一面，那么偶尔被骗，只是这么做的微小的成本，因为当你相信别人最好的一面时，他们通常待你最好。

Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.

15. 始终要规定一个截止日期，因为这可以筛选掉，无关紧要和平淡无奇的东西。截止日期有助于纠正你的完美主义倾向，迫使你找到不一样的解决方案。不一样是一件好事。

Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.

16. 现在，不管你多大年纪，这就是你的黄金岁月。

Whatever your age, these are your golden years.

17. 如果你想走得快，就独自走;如果你想走得远，就一起走。

If you want to go fast go alone; if you want to go further go together.

18. 心灵开放是走向头脑开放最直接的途径。

The best way to keep an open mind, is to keep an open heart.

19. 如果你在25岁之前不吸烟，你可能终生都不会吸烟;如果你在25岁之前吸烟，你可能终生都不会戒烟。

If you don’t smoke before the age of 25 you are unlikely to ever start; if you do smoke before 25 you are unlikely to ever quit.

20. 模仿他人，是一个很好的起点。模仿自己，是一个令人失望的终点。

Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is disappointing way to end.

21. 不要用观点来定义自身，因为那样你就无法改变你的想法了。用价值观来定义自身。

Don’t define yourself by your opinions, because then you can’t change your mind. Define yourself by your values.

22. 长期而言，未来是由乐观主义者决定的。成为乐观主义者，不意味着你必须忽视我们创造的众多问题。你只需要想象，我们解决问题的能力能有多么大的提升。

Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore the multitude of problems we create; you just have to imagine how much our ability to solve problems improves.

23. 与灵感相比，习惯要可靠得多。通过养成习惯来取得进步。不要把注意力集中在如何让体态优美上。专注于成为一个一有机会就去锻炼的人。

Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Don’t focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout.

24. 大多数一夜之间取得的成功，都需要至少五年时间，事实上，任何重大成功都是如此。以此为依据，规划你的生活。

Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.

25. 保持在场。99%的成功只是在场而已。事实上，大多数成功只不过是坚持。

About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.

26. 要培养一种习惯，就要改变你的语言，从“我做得到还是做不到”变成“我做还是不做”。这样你就转移了重心，从摇摆不定的选择，转移到了一种坚定的身份。

It is easier to maintain a habit by switching your language from “I can’t do X” to ‘I don't do X.” You shift the weight from a wavering choice to an unwavering identity.

27. 每天写下一件你感恩的事，这是有史以来最便宜的疗愈法。

Writing down one thing you are grateful for each day is the cheapest possible therapy ever.

28. 通过改变行为来改变想法，比通过改变想法来改变行为要容易得多。你寻求什么样的改变，就将其付诸行动。

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